Everyone wants to be happy and successful. But the definition of success varies from person to person. There are few people who never done something meaningful and remarkable in life and will not ever. And there are another few who go behind small things like little favor from the boss or little reputation in the neighborhood or few likes on their Facebook wall. I’m not talking about them. I’m talking about and writing for those who want to achieve something meaningful in life for themselves and they can set example for the rest of the world. The terms like ‘meaningful’ or ‘purposeful’ has greater importance in this context.
You might wonder how to achieve desired goal and success in life. You’re not alone. There are millions people who want to attain some big goals in life; but I’m sorry to say – success is not the cup of tea of everyone. Dreams die daily and die before blossoming.
Success is all about going in the right direction. I’m, therefore, writing if I can help anyone in anyway.
Before proceeding further, I’m just telling you that getting success is not an easy task. However, if you wish, you can make the difficult task more interesting, full of fun and enjoyable. And that should be. Before and after getting success, what’s most important for you is happiness. In a miserably state of mind no one can achieve his/her goal.
Right now let me tell where to start.
1. Preparatory Steps
1.1. Identify your passion:
It’s the best starting point. In fact, your passion is your greatest strength. Find out your intense enthusiasm towards or compelling desire for something, your eager interest in an idea, proposal or a cause. Find out or likes and dislikes. Look at your favorite subjects and activities. Realize which your love is and why it is. Take some time. Make a clear idea. Then proceed further.
1.2. Set your Goals and Deadlines
Make a list of goals you want to achieve. Make a long list as much as possible. Include goals in both your clearly readable and subtle mind. Divide them in to both short term and long term goals. Make pairs which are related to each other. Make more comparisons. Check whether they are matching to your passion or not. Strike out that is not matching to your passion. Strike out that is making odd set. Now, few (one, two or three) of your desired goals are on the board. They have relevance with your passion and not contradictory to each other. Now move to next step.
Your goals should be SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound). You’ve already decided how much your goals are relevant to your passion and how those are specific that you can attain. Now be cautious that those are not abstract. You can measure them in real life experience.
Make a clear deadline to fulfill the goals. Remember that life is short. You’ve to fulfill all your goal within a limited time span.
Now, follow the following step.
1.3. Self Evaluation:
Self evaluation is, in real sense, self evolution. Evaluate yourself whether you are fit for the goal to achieve. Where you’re at present and where you need to stand after few year. Calculate the distance and time as well as the attempt you require to reach there. Develop yourself. It’ll take time. No matter. Follow the steps bellow.
1.4. Stick to your Commitment:
You’ve already decided that you’ve to achieve a goal. But there’s short coming too. Your self evaluation might has told you that you’re not yet prepared. Or there are some other hindrances in your way. No matter. Those are temporary, but your goal is permanent till you’re alive. You can change your life’s cursor so that it’ll fit to your destination. Follow the steps below.
2. Make Personal Development up to the fine output
This is one of the most crucial points and has multiple aspects. Just follow the steps.
2.1. Develop better positive attitude:
positivity is the healthy state of our mind and brain. It cultivates acceptance and tolerance and self realization. You alone can’t change the world, but you can change yourself. Trough your positive attitude you can influence your surroundings. Positivity makes you stronger. It gives you positive energy and self confidence. Definitely positivity within you will lead you towards better and bigger achievement.
Just ask yourself – Am I positive enough? To find the answer you have to look within you. You must go through self evaluation. Self evaluation will not only bring you opportunities to be more positive, pretty enough it’ll help you in finding your weaknesses in more scientific way. When you evaluate yourself deliberately, either you’ll find everything with you is Ok or there is something wrong. Try step by step on daily development basis to erase the negative attitude within you.
How to culture a more positive attitude? It’s simple. Just stop criticizing and blaming other people. Look into yourself, in which way you’re better than other. Accept any adverse situation as natural. In a life adverse situations come and go. Why to bother about them. Rather we can learn from the adverse situation and we can feel stronger if we pass them to go naturally. Don’t be reactive. Just give a smile. And what’s more. Accept criticism.
2.2. Lead a balanced life:
The second step, i.e., leading a balanced life up to 80% automatically follows positivity within you. In every aspects of your life, you need to keep balance. Keep harmony between your work and rest, your mental activities and physical activities, and most importantly in between your speech and deeds. Along with take balanced diet and grow more balanced habits.
2.3. Lead a learning life:
There’s no end of learning. Learn each day, each time when you get opportunity to learn. Learn to develop your personality and social skill. Learn to know something if that will helpful for you. Learn from books, learn from other people’s success and failure and also learn from your own experiences. Learning will make more able and mentally stronger. But be cautious; don’t learn any garbage which will in no way helpful to you. Be selective – what to learn and what to not.
2.4. Embrace Change:
Gradually you’ll learn to embrace changes and develop a dynamic personality within you.
2.5. Develop self confidence:
Self confidence is the key that you most possess to achieve any sort of success. Whatever it may be never lose self confidence, otherwise you’ll be for no good. However, a word of caution never be over confident.
Be grateful: Many of us are unaware that a lot of people contribute to our lives. Many times we just ignore the fact that not only the known people, but there are many whom we don’t know personally too contribute to our lives. For example, the roads on which our cars run are funded by the money of millions tax payers, the food we eat is the result of hard working of the peasants. Try your best to be thankful to everyone whether you.
Supplementary reading: Key Attitudes Required to Achieve Success
3. Action Phase
You’ve already fixed many things. It’s time to act. Act vigorously, but cautiously.
3.1. Start now, take the advantages of opportunities:
If you’ve already made everything with the steps to follow or with little variation in accordance your convenience or creativity, then there is no better time to start except ‘now’. Start your journey toward your goal. There are lots of opportunities in your way. Identify each and take as much as possible advantages you can.
3.2. Make a to-do list and work daily:
You have previously fixed your deadline. Now divide the complete work you required to do by the days left. Now you’re clear about how much progress to be completed each day. Work each day so you can fulfill your dream within stipulated time frame. If you’re getting more time complete your assignments in advance.
3.3. Never ever give up:
After entering the real scenario of action, you might face many problems. But keep in mind that the problems are temporary, but your achievement in your life is permanent for you and for many who would likely to follow your path. Resolve it, you’ll never give up whatever the situation might be. Be courageous. Be man of action
3.4. Smelling failure, no problem, go on:
All of the extraordinary people who achieved something great have never achieved in first attempt. Read the biography of all great successful persons. They have tested failure many times.
What you need to learn is the lesson from your failure. It will tell where your mistakes were. Accept your mistakes, never try to erase them. Learn from them. Never give up. Definitely you’re going to be next successful person of the world.
Supplementary Reading: Great Success Comes After Many Failures
4. The last big steps:
Take simultaneous action on multiple aspects. First, work within you. Get rid of all distraction. There are many things in your general habit or in surrounding those can disturb you. Eliminate all disturbing elements from your life. Never make them heavy on your goal.
You must should get rid of distraction, avoid negative people, learn to say no and never give excuse.
Try, success is in your way.